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I had been a entirely different person ever since I became a mom. I’m pretty sure other moms feel the same way. It was the best privilege ever presented to me but it comes with a lot of challenges. So the question of the week goes…

What adjustments did you make in your life to fit the role of a mother? Can you share some tips to make your tasks easier?

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Here are my thoughts on this topic:

I’ve been a mom for 2 years now. It was enjoyable but it never is easy so I have to make adjustments here and there.

1. Be Reasonable. I began motherhood with the highest of expectations, she says. I was going to do mothering better than it had ever been done before. I read all the books and listened to all the experts. But instead of feeling successful and competent, I ended up feeling inadequate and stressed-out. I observed that “tuning into others’ expectations and trying to fit yourself into some ‘ideal’ mold weakens the spirit and creates worry and guilt.” I’ve learned to accept my strengths as well as my limitations. This is really hard in the beginning as I’m a working mom and my “ideal mom” my own mom stayed at home to take care of us full time. For a time I had feelings of inadequacies and guilt. I felt I’m neglecting the family because I don’t have enough time to care for them. But it was reassuring to hear from my husband that I’m doing a great job despite that I have to leave home to work. I still devote ample time to take care of their needs whenever I’m home and I also make sure that I don’t do overtimes and work in the week-end. In time, I came to accept my own limitations and became reasonable.

2. Simplify: I found it necessary to establish priorities, giving attention to “the more important things,” including the time and personal care my little boy needs. Next is to analyze our life-style. I realized that it is important to put aside activities and possessions that are not really necessary.

3. Make time for relaxation: Success as a mother depends on our ability to stay balanced throughout demanding times. It is true that our children needs us, but they also need their moms to be happy and content. We need reasonable relaxation.

4. Get help: A mother’s cry for help should elicit the help of the husband. With his cooperation we may be able to establish a system of sharing the housework so that we have the time to fulfill the goals that we have set together—such as being available for your children. If possible, moms should also establish a support network of people, including family and trusted friends, who share her interests and goals.

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